A healthy sexual relationship is different for every couple because every individual has differing sexual needs. While the activities involved in each sexual relationship can vary widely, in general, “healthy” sex should encompass the following:
This is one of the most frequently asked questions, and there is no true answer, because everyone is different. In sexology, we don’t talk about what is “normal” because who defines that? What might be normal to one person, might not feel right for another. Instead, we refer to healthy sex. If you are happy with your sex life, not harming yourself or others, and satisfied with the amount of sex you’re having, then you have a healthy sex life. Research indicates that the average statistic for sex is between once and twice a week, but this is variable for couples and singles, life stages and lifestyles. A lot of men (60%) and women (70%) say they would prefer more sex, though!
This has to be one of the most common questions about sex. And while more men than women ask it, both are curious about the scientific answer to this question. Based on sexual physiological knowledge, the answer is no, size does not matter. Whether engaging in anal or vaginal penetration, a finger can be just as pleasurable as a penis. When it comes to anal penetration, often a finger is more pleasurable because of the dexterity a finger can provide, especially for a man that likes a stimulating prostate massage. Many women will also say that a finger is better able to tickle her fancy vaginally, especially for those women who feel they have a G-spot. The most sexually stimulating spot on a woman is her clitoris – the glans has over 8000 nerve endings alone! There is also a network of sensitive nerve endings in the outer one third of the vagina, but hardly any in the inner two-thirds. length of the penis doesn’t matter physically, and girth, while it can feel pleasant for many women, feels good because the vagina will wrap snugly around the width of what ever is put in it: a finger, tampon, toy or penis of any girth. The pleasure comes from the penetration and technique, not the size. It really is about the motion of the ocean, not the size of the wave. However, for those that do say size matters, this is, like with anything in sex, a personal preference, not a biological fact
The inability to have an orgasm is more common among women than men, although at anytime during life, both men and women can experience anorgasmia (inability to have an orgasm). The first step to finding a cure, is to determine the cause of the problem. It could be physical, psychological or lifestyle. There might be a medical treatment, or side effect of a medication (such as an anti-depressant) that could be contributing to your inability to orgasm; there may be a lack of education or understanding about your sexual stimulation and response, anxiety, stress, relationship difficulty, or perhaps fear of intimacy. There are many causes, and each requires a specifically tailored solution for each individual or couple.
In old age it is essential for both the partners to accept the fact that the problem exists for which both have to share equal responsibility. Sometimes the same atmosphere, the same manner, the same place, increases boredom with sex; to overcome it one should try on experimenting new sexual approaches such as change of environment, reading or watching sexual materials like books, pictures, movies etc. Loss of communication and understanding between the two partners can lead to sexual boredom, hence it is important for both of them to talk to each other.
